PTypes - Self-Sacrificing Vices

PTypes - Personality Types

Self-Sacrificing Vices

Irrational Need
(False Good) Irrational Need to Avoid
(False Bad) Idealized Image
(Oldham, pp. 319-20)
Not well correlated Personality Disorder
Masochistic

situations that lead to disappointment, failure, or mistreatment accepting; are nonjudgmental, tolerant of others foibles, and never harshly reproving; stick with you through thick and thin chooses people and situations that lead to disappointment, failure, or mistreatment

attempts by others to help them serving; prime directive is to be helpful to others rejects or renders ineffective the attempts of others to help them

positive personal events long suffering; prefer to shoulder their own burden in life following positive events, responds with depression, guilt, or a behavior that produces pain

to be hurt, defeated, or humiliated humble; are neither boastful nor proud and are uncomfortable being fussed over; do not like being the center of attention; are uneasy in the limelight incites angry or rejecting responses from others and then feels hurt, defeated, or humiliated

opportunities for pleasure, or acknowledging enjoying themselves enduring; have much patience and a high tolerance for discomfort rejects opportunities for pleasure, or is reluctant to acknowledge enjoying themselves

to sacrifice accomplishing their personal objectives out of deference to others, are noncompetitive and unambitious, comfortable coming in second, even last fails to accomplish tasks crucial to their personal objectives despite demonstrated ability to do so

people who consistently treat them badly people who consistently treat them well are always considerate in their dealings with others; are ethical, honest, and trustworthy is uninterested in or rejects people who consistently treat them well

self-sacrifice taking care of their own appropriate needs generous; will give you the shirt off their back if you need it; do not wait to be asked engages excessive self-sacrifice that is unsolicited by the recipient of the sacrifice

Self-Sacrificing Vices
Irrational Need (False Good)	Irrational Need to Avoid (False Bad)	Idealized Image (Oldham, pp. 319-20) Not well correlated	Personality Disorder Masochistic

situations that lead to disappointment, failure, or mistreatment		accepting; are nonjudgmental, tolerant of others foibles, and never harshly reproving; stick with you through thick and thin	chooses people and situations that lead to disappointment, failure, or mistreatment
	attempts by others to help them	serving; prime directive is to be helpful to others	rejects or renders ineffective the attempts of others to help them
	positive personal events	long suffering; prefer to shoulder their own burden in life	following positive events, responds with depression, guilt, or a behavior that produces pain
to be hurt, defeated, or humiliated		humble; are neither boastful nor proud and are uncomfortable being fussed over; do not like being the center of attention; are uneasy in the limelight	incites angry or rejecting responses from others and then feels hurt, defeated, or humiliated
	opportunities for pleasure, or acknowledging enjoying themselves	enduring; have much patience and a high tolerance for discomfort	rejects opportunities for pleasure, or is reluctant to acknowledge enjoying themselves
to sacrifice accomplishing their personal objectives		out of deference to others, are noncompetitive and unambitious, comfortable coming in second, even last	fails to accomplish tasks crucial to their personal objectives despite demonstrated ability to do so
people who consistently treat them badly	people who consistently treat them well	are always considerate in their dealings with others; are ethical, honest, and trustworthy	is uninterested in or rejects people who consistently treat them well
self-sacrifice	taking care of their own appropriate needs	generous; will give you the shirt off their back if you need it; do not wait to be asked	engages excessive self-sacrifice that is unsolicited by the recipient of the sacrifice

A vice is a firmly held false belief of the value of something. Vices dispose us to value as good or bad things not in our power, things external to our moral character. But it is irrational and prideful to desire, or to desire to avoid, to fear, externals. The irrational needs, or vices, of the Self-Sacrificing type are based on particular false values.

All of the vices are rooted in pride, that firmly held false belief that we can provide ourselves with happiness by obtaining certain external 'goods' (cf. DeYoung, pp. 38-39).

If we are in the habit of making false value-judgments of particular externals, we should learn to bear the things falsely valued as bad, things for which we have an "irrational need to avoid," and forbear the things falsely valued as good, things for which we have an "irrational need." "Bear and Forbear" - Epictetus

Irrational Strategies for Obtaining Happiness

A Brief Theory of Bad Character

Rebecca DeYoung (2009). Glittering Vices: A New Look at the Seven Deadly Sins and Their Remedies. Grand Rapids, MI: Brazos Press.

John M. Oldham and Lois B. Morris (1995). The New Personality Self-Portrait: Why You Think, Work, Love and Act the Way You Do. New York: Bantam. Oldham and Morris list the key characteristics not of an idealized image, but of a style of normal functioning.

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